Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Sick

Last week was a hard week. Sadie was a beast (which I did complain about) and apparently, sick. Oops.
We ended up taking her to the doctor and found out she'd probably been sick for at least 7 days already. What we thought was exhaustion from terrible behaviour and her 5th molar coming in (or possibly a small cold) was likely the result of a virus. Ultimately it was when she stuck her finger in her ear, wiggled it and said "uh oh" that we decided to get her checked.
Ear infection.
The biggest parenting fail about this is that this isn't the first time she's done the ear wiggle thing. It was just the first time she's said something about it. The wiggling has always been in the same ear so I wonder if it's been recurring and untreaded due to dumb parents?
Double oops.
I guess it's good that Sadie is a little trooper when it comes to illness but it does make it hard for us to know she is unwell (or how sick she really is).
Other people have kids like this too, right? I mean, even when Sadie had the Chicken Pox it didn't phase her at ALL. I guess I'm going to have to be more careful with a runny nose!


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Friday, November 4, 2011

More than terrible twos

Last night Sadie was on a suicide mission at The Little Gym. It was horrible. Thankfully she came out with only a bloody, tooth bitten lip and nothing worse yet Momma, on the otherhand, is pretty exasperated.
The "theory" at The Little Gym and virtually all of the programs we've been in is to let your kid wander while you (the parent) participate in the activities. We're starting to wonder about this. While most (ALL - who are we kidding) of the other toddlers make their way back to their parents, Sadie NEVER will. She's let loose and goes WILD. Last night I sat with bells singing in a circle while my daughter was leaping off large mats, head first.
Music class is the exact same thing. The teacher promises me that "she's taking it all in" even if she is running in circles while the other kids sit calmly. I'm told "it's OK, let her". Help?
I was going to write all about Halloween and how wonderful it was but what sticks out most are the times when we were around other children, in large groups, and how Sadie stood out. During Halloween storytime at our Parent Child Centre she would not sit down. No, she ran in circles through the kids with us and the teacher asking her to sit. Then she was standing 1 foot in front of the teacher for her very own "private" story (forget about the 40 kids calmly sitting behind her).
I was complaining to my friend about this and she asked if it's a discipline issue.
Is this somehow our fault? I don't really know what to do. I hear about the terrible twos constantly but this seems more intense. We have the screaming fits but they seem like nothing compared to Sadie's hyperactivity.
Truthfully, you know I'm asking a question I likely know the answer to but being in the situation as a PARENT is awful. I don't want MY kid to be THAT kid. I'm already seeing the judgement that i cant control her. Or the looks of "what's what's wrong with that kid".
Could it be? I had ADHD as a child and it seems Sadie has it too. I don't want this for her at all. It's so hard and while I had good coping skills to overcome it, it still hurts when I think of what I went through. Kids won't want to be her friend. She'll be lonely. She'll not understand why because she'll want nothing more than to play with the other kids and won't understand why they don't like her.
God, this absolutely sucks.

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Monday, October 24, 2011

Trip Report: Day 2 Magic Kingdom

This was our big day and the one that I had been eagerly anticipating and somewhat fearing for MONTHS. Sadie was getting her hair cut at the Harmony Barber Shop on Main Street USA. Her appointment was at 9:00 am so we were up early and at the food court for breakfast.
After breakfast we got in our car and made our way to the Magic Kingdom. Since it was early and because we’d stayed at the resort for breakfast first we felt that driving was the better option to get us to our appointment on time. Parking is free when you’re onsite which is a nice perk but the buses are great too and we rode those several days as well.
When we arrived the park wasn’t open. We tried to get in by saying we had a hair appointment but they said we had to wait. I argued a bit and we were finally let in with misinformation or “misunderstanding” that we were going to Bibbidy Bobbidy Boutique and not Harmony Barber. I’m glad we made we did because another family was already waiting at the barbershop and shortly after a 3rd arrived. Yes, we had reservations but they also have walk-ups and the line was huge
by the time our appointment was over.
Anyway, the appointment went well. Sadie sat in the seat, was covered in Mickey Stickers, and entertained by a spinning Minnie Mouse light-up toy. We opted to have only her bangs cut because I love her curls too much to lose them. I’m actually surprised I didn’t cancel this appointment completely because up until that moment I wasn’t even sure if I could part with her bangs! In the end, although her bangs were a bit short, it worked out because we no longer need to tie her hair up so she can see. For $18 we received the cut, a pair of Mickey ears that said “First Haircut”, her hair clippings wrapped in tissue with “pixie dust” (sparkles) and a first haircut certificate. It was pretty awesome.

















After the appointment we went shopping because our tradition is to always buy a hat at Disney to wear there. I had also wanted to buy Sadie a Mickey to match the Minnie she had at home (20 inch?) but found out that Walt Disney World was SOLD OUT of Mickey Mouse!! I kid you not!! We ended up buying her a 10 inch Mickey and a Donald Duck that she seemed to have an eye for (this was just the beginning, just wait) and a back pack that was “only” $16.95 when you spent $40.
I left D in the store paying (I didn’t want to see how much it cost) and went out on the street with Sadie just in time to catch a performance on Main Street. Sadie was so enthralled by the show that she became part of it! A Disney Photographer was able to grab a bunch of great shots and it was truly a Magical Disney Experience.





Looking in the windows on Main Street USA







Next up we were on our way to Fantasy Land. It was still early in the day and wasn’t very busy so we were easily able to ride several rides including: Dumbo (2x?), Carousel (3x?), Snow White’s Scary Adventure, Mickey’s Philarmagic and It’s a Small World. Dumbo and the Carousel were Sadie’s favourite rides. She could have gone on them all day long if we’d let her, she kept signing and saying “mo, mo”.
By this time was getting close to lunch and we had a decision to make. I had booked an 11:30 am reservation at The Crystal Palace that I had intended to cancel. It was a filler “just in case” but since we had dinner reservations we were doubtful we’d go. We decided that a break in the air conditioning would be a good thing after all so after walking around, getting lost (literally, I was lost from Sadie and D for a good 20 min and almost cried) we met up at Crystal Palace for lunch.
Sadie was asleep and slept through our entire lunch waking up barely in time to see the characters AND hit the buffet herself. I apologised to our server, we were pretty much there for two meal time-slots.

















After lunch the mid-day heat was starting up and we were melting. We tried to watch a bit of the Castle Surprise show but when Sadie seemed uninterested and we were ill from the heat we decided to move on. Instead we road The Haunted Mansion and toured the new “cemetery” which was an interactive area of the line that you could chose to go through. I’m wondering if it is still optional when the parks are busy? Regardless, it was fun and I’m glad we took the little de-tour before the ride, which Sadie loved. She loves rides. It doesn’t even seem to matter if they are dark and spooky.





Playing at the Haunted MansionAfterward we were back to Fantasyland and rode; you guessed it, the Carousel AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN. Sadie loves the Carousel! We also went and had Mickey Ears made for her (Halloween style) with her name embroidered. We may have gone on Dumbo again during this time but honestly, The Carousel and Dumbo, it’s all the same. She loved them both.





It was now 3:00 pm and we’d spent the entire day at the park. We had reservations with friends at 5:00 pm so we knew we couldn’t at that point go back to hotel so we stayed for the parade and then slowly made our way back to our car. Dinner #2 all hot and sweaty!





Our Dinner was at Whispering Canyon CafĂ© at Wilderness Lodge. We were meeting D’s friend from High School, her husband and their 15 month old son who were visiting from British Columbia. Sadie and their son had a great time running through the lobby (which was beautiful) and playing with the Lincoln Log play table at the restaurant. This meal is NOT for anyone who has an aversion to meat or is vegetarian (although vegetarian options are available). We shared a family style skillet that was filled with ribs, beef brisket, chicken, corn, mashed potatoes cornbread, and beans. I was full after eating this meal without having any meat (except maybe the pork in the beans) and finished it off with Cheese cake. The amount of food available was insane. Note: Had we paid out of pocket, this meal, for 2 adults (Sadie was Free) it would have been $70.






Lincoln Logs











Pony race - Disney ENCOURAGES your kids to run like wild maniacs through their restaurants





Playing in the lobby of Wilderness Lodge





Slow walk back to our car (Sadie was "driving" Lightening McQueen")

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Sunday, October 23, 2011

Just the way you are...

I feel guilty about what I wrote about Sadie's donor so I wanted to clarify. I haven't actually re-read what I'd written so this may feel a bit disjointed however it's how I feel NOW.

Basically, we hadn't seen an adult picture and when I'd purchased the additional images I wasn't expecting one. His profile clearly said "No Adult Picture Available"/"photo span unavailable" which I may e-mail the bank to complain about to let them know that they should have accurate information because not everyone wants to see an adult picture. Essentially, I think that if I had expected adult pictures I would have been more prepared. Instead I was suddenly staring at a shirtless adult picture of our donor and he looked nothing like I'd expected. I honestly felt like they'd sent the wrong pictures. There was a moment of denial. Who the hell is THAT? Well, it's the man you procreated with.
It's amazing how vividly we were able to imagine him and how completely wrong we were.
It's been a few days and I've settled into quite a fondness for him. There have been a few times that I have gone back to questioning whether it's him but I know it is, of course it is. My favourite picture is one of the shirtless ones (yes, there's more than one) because his face looks so familiar. Surreal. He looks like a genuinely happy person as both a child and an adult.
Ultimately, in the end we picked him because something about his profile was magical to us and it still is. It was more than the little boy standing in front of a Christmas tree overflowing with presents. Selecting him wasn't the same for us as selecting our previous 3 donors. We'd scrutinized everything about them. We'd picked them out of a large pile of "acceptable" donors (medical/Hair/Eye Colour) based on their looks. In a way it feels more ORGANIC the way we selected Sadie's donor. We hadn't reduced him down to parts and then judged him on his appearance. We overlooked his incompatabilities as if they didn't exist. So to say that I was surprised by his dark hair, dark eyes and tanned complexion is an irony. We HAD that information but we chose to ignore it. Instead of juding the cover we only had the inside of the book and we didn't read it (figuratively).
I'm glad we have these pictures and I think they're going to be very important to Sadie growing up. I'm happy she wont spend time imagining what he LOOKS like. No surprises there.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

I get it now

Since the day we started our parenthood journey I have been obsessed with uncovering the identity of our donor. I have searched profiles for clues, joined the DSR, and googled a million and one times. I couldn't handle the "unknown" of the situation and I have never understood how others could be indifferent towards knowing more or seeing pictures. To anyone who asked, I'd say I was doing it for Sadie and that she has a right to this information even if it meant breaking rules and even if it was also just an obssesive mission I was on for my own satisfaction. I mean to say, we have an ID release donor so why not wait until she's 18?
- Last night I purchased 7 new photos of our donor.
- Last night I saw the man we used to conceive our daughter.
- Last night I had a major feeling of regret.
Why did I ever want to know so much? I feel like I've invited this stranger into our home and there's no turning back.
I feel like before the moment we saw his face it was easy to ignore him. He didn't exist. It was as if Sadie was 100% created from my egg alone. She was my mini-me.
Now, her face is shaped like his and she clearly had HIS eyebrows. I looked at my daughter and I saw her in a new light. I saw part of HIM.
It was a very surreal moment. It's hard to explain the true feeling.
Although I regret it then, I've moved on today. Sadie is my perfect boo and if I could meet him I'd thank him a million times over. FATE brought us to him, we only looked at one profile and it was his. Looking back now, had we seen these pictures, and had access to the rest of the database we probably wouldn't have picked him. That would have been so sad.

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Friday, October 7, 2011

Foto Friday

Cheese!!!!!


I love this picture so much I had to post it. My kid is the cutest. (;

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Wednesday, October 5, 2011

TRIP REPORT -Day 1

We're back....
Our morning started off at the Orlando International Airport Hyatt where we had spent the night after our late flight arrived. We woke up leisurely, got ready and called for the bellman to come for our bags. To our surprise the bellman took us all the way to our car after waiting a good 30 minutes for us to fill out the paperwork and wait in line at the rental desk. Great service! We ended up with a Ford Focus which I chose from the lot. Our bags were loaded for us and we were off!


View from our balcony at the Hyatt

Of course, despite the drive being less than a half hour Sadie fell asleep in the car. We decided that I should check in at the resort while D and Sadie sat in the parking lot with the AC/Car on. Our room was ready so I picked up our stroller rental from baggage check and a surprise package at the front desk and I went to get D and Sadie.
This was our 4th stay at Disney's Pop Century resort and our 3rd time in the 70's (each building is a decade theme - 50's through 90's). We unpacked and opened our package. It was a box full of fun goodies for Sadie from Laurie, Heather and Ryan which included her much loved Disney crocs!


After we went for lunch and had Pizza and Chicken Penne Alfredo which is pretty much all we order from the POP food court. Our next stop was the swimming pool, followed by a nap and then we were off to Epcot.


Sadie REALLY loves her crocs

EPCOT wouldn’t normally be our first stop on a Disney vacation but we had a 4:00 pm dining reservation at Garden Grill which is located there.. I’d heard this place was “amazing” and it featured Mickey Mouse so I grabbed the reservation, the only one available for our entire week, and decided that Sadie’s first taste (literally and figuratively) of Disney would be my least favourite park*.
We arrived at EPCOT about 45 minutes before our reservation and decided to ride Space Ship Earth. Sadie was a real trooper and loved it even though a lot of it was very dark. After the ride we realized we didn’t have a lot of time and would likely have to run for our meal. That was when we first realized that stroller parking sucks and that our stroller was no where near where we were and that a) we should have parked it in a different “lot” and/or b) we shouldn’t have exited through THAT door. The stroller, as it turns out, was a necessary evil. There was no way we could get around without it but at the same time it was allowed in so few places it felt like we were parking it and carrying Sadie half of the time. Needless to say I feel much stronger after this vacation and I think I may have lost weight from sweating profusely from the humid heat while lugging around a 30 lb toddler (who often refused to get back in her “chair”).
So we found the stroller, you know, wayyyyy over there…. And then we had to walk back wayyyy over there in the other direction. We walked quickly until we were stopped and told we couldn’t take our stroller any further so we walked wayyyyy over there again to another stroller parking lot and ditched our wheels.
We finally arrived at Garden Grill, sweaty and gross, and checked in for our reservation. You’ll notice that we look sweaty in most of our pictures and that was because it was so humid the entire time we were there. A much different heat than what we are used to when we go in May. Anyway, we were sat in the upper level of the rotating restaurant and to be honest, it kind of felt like a cafeteria, an empty cafeteria at that which was surprising since the reservation was near impossible to secure. The good news was that the food was really good and the character interaction was amazing. Each character spent a good amount of time with Sadie and we saw them all twice (Mickey, Pluto, Chip and Dale). Sadie wasn’t as wowed as I thought she would be (she’s an old pro) but enjoyed their company. She tried to feed Pluto and I think Chip ended up with a sweet potato fry (from her meal) stuck to his paw. This is what she does at home – she’s constantly feeding Bear (my mom’s dog) so I guess she though she should feed them too.


Chip!



Pluto!



Dale!



Mickey!

Our meal included Turkey, Roast Beef, Smashed Potatoes, Rice and Strawberry-Rhubarb Crisp for dessert. The meal also included Fish but we asked for that to be left off our “family style” platter. It was “all you cared to eat” but we didn’t need a refill. So. Much. Food. I love how Disney doesn’t say “All you CAN eat” but that’s what most of the restaurants were. Sadie was also given a kids plate of food too but she preferred the roast beef over Mac N’ Cheese, chicken drumstick and French fries. Sadly, there was so much food that we barely even touched the dessert and it did look amazing. The vanilla bean ice cream on top of it was really good though and I ate all of it. Note: Had we paid out of pocket, this meal, for 2 adults (Sadie was Free) it would have been $70.


All you care to eat family platter



That drumstick scared me... and still does

After dinner was over we decided to check out the park. We left Future World and started to walk towards Mexico. On our way there we ran into Duffy the Disney bear. Duffy was contrived ...er… I mean… imagined since our last visit to WDW. Duffy is essentially Disney for build-a-bear and had an odd Japanese cult following that amused us during our vacation. There was a small line so we decided to let Sadie meet him.


We ventured on towards Africa where Sadie played drums that were on display. She had a great time.


We then went into Germany which is one of my favourite shops in World Showcase and quickly realized that Sadie was too tired to be in the park any longer and and our day was about to end. We were lucky to be close to boat transportation and hopped on the SS Friendship which took us back to Mexico and closer to the exit. It was a good first day!


View from our room at Pop Century at Dusk


Still wearing the crocs at bedtime


*I know many people love EPCOT but I find it outdated and not enough to keep kids happy. Also, it's always SO hot there and a lot of outdoor walking.

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